The key to a good one night hookup---Ask questions

Nothing can be more reassuring than asking questions when you are not sure about something. This is anti-tuition. For some people, we don’t ask because we are afraid of the answers. At this time, we might or might not know the answers. However, being curious in front of person you like is very important. That means you are interested in their motivation. Therefore, stop being a coward and just ask!

Asking questions can be sexy as well. That is a fun way to get to know your partner and engage in intimacy. Get to know what makes him/her feel good, not just about your first date, but your whole relationship and about everything you are not sure of during your relationship. For example, I want to kiss you, is it okay? Can I say no? How do you feel? What do you want? Are you ready for lovemaking? Is this what you want? Do you see the point? These are not questions only being asked within two people in a serious relationship. They can also be asked in a hookup, or even a one night hookup relationship.

When their might be different opinions, asking questions matters even more. Although both parties can raise questions, males should take more initiative when it is about the status of this relationship, like is this going to be just one night hookup or more? In hookup culture on dating apps for free, one of the parties will get the upper side, which should be in charge of asking questions like where are we going? What do you want to eat? Etc. If you are on the upper side, act like you are.

Even nice friend finder can abuse privileges. There is a survey conducted on 145 heterosexual males, among which 92% are white-colored.[ According to the survey, they often confuse sexual desire with agreement and it is very difficult to tell one from another. In other words, they would just assume their partner would agree to what is in their mind and just ignore differences. So dear gentleman, please do ask when you are not sure.

Of course, answering these questions can take practices. First, you need to figure out what you like and dislike. You can write it down on a paper to make yourself clear. It doesn’t have to be an inspiration talk. Just to let yourself know that what is unacceptable for you and what can be negotiated.

You can practice these in your mind, so that you won’t be so scared when you talk to people. Start from asked your partner questions when making love “Is this okay?” That is a very simple question and also enable your partner to think it is okay to reject or say no. So that they would ask your opinion the next time.